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'Read
an extract from Diane's talk as Madame
Seduction at the Kylie Minogue Lingerie
launch Feb 2004'
Seduction is an exciting
topic!
- What is seduction?
- Who seduces who?
- What helps in the game of seduction?
- How do you use seductive secrets in the game
of relationship?
Firstly please be clear I’m not talking
about the negative connotation of the word that
is associated with manipulation and coercing someone
against their better judgment. Seduction is intertwined
with flirting, Seduction is for fun, for a positive
experience, for exhilaration, for initiating relationship
whether you wish to attract a new lover or seduce
the one you already have.
Who are the seducers?
A lot people think that in the courting game,
men are the first to initiate the courtship. Men
perceive themselves as the seducers, most of the
time. However men often stand around for hours
holding a drink in their hands wondering if she's
interested or not the reality is that in almost
all successful pickups, it is the woman who seduces
the man without saying a single word.
Women are taking the lead; they are not waiting
for the man to make the first move. Researcher
Monica Moore of Missouri University , who has
observed more than 2000 hours of flirting, women
give non verbal cues that get flirtation rolling
two thirds of the time. As a result s man may
think he’s making the first move because
He is the one, who literally moves from wherever
he is to the womens’ side, but he is usually
the one being summoned.
So what is it that helps in this game of seduction?
We know about…..
- Making the most of your good looks,
- Developing your sense of humor,
- Your intellect and wit,
- Your prestige and wealth!!
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Diane and
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These are all on the list when attracting a partner.
Plus now we have the Art of Tantra.
In our culture today, we do not always choose, as the
object of our desire, those people the evolutionists
say the most biologically desirable. After all, many
young women today find the pale, androgynous, scarcely
muscled yet emotionally expressive Leonardo DiCaprio
more appealing than the burly hulks (Arnold Schwartzenegger,
Bruce Willis, Claude Van Dan etc.) of action movies..
Woody Allen may look nerdy but he's had no trouble winning
women but because he is has a clever sense of humor.
We flirt with the intent of assessing potential Partners,
we flirt to have easy, no-strings-attached sex, and
we flirt when we are not looking for either. We flirt
because, most simply, flirtation can be a liberating
form of play, a game with suspense and ambiguities that
brings joys of its own.
What helps in seduction- there is a science of seduction,
and I’m going to mention just a few.
Through the ages women have dressed not only to feel
good about them, but to impress, they accentuate their
feminine charms...
- Their cleavage with a fabulous bra,
- Their legs with a great pair of stilettos or shoes
- They know the male of the species can’t help
but notice.
The breasts
It’s almost impossible not to admire a beautiful
cleavage. There may be many beautiful women but not
always they are the ones who seduce the man of their
choice. There are other women who seem to have the seduction
magic. And part of their secret is a ‘seduction
vibe’. Which is often sent out through their Body
Language. It is important to remember this – everything
about seduction is based on the following two facts:
Nonverbal communication has five times more impact than
verbal communication.
So what is it?
Here are some well practiced seduction tips you may
or may not be conscious you are using; they have been
practiced throughout history from the time of Garden
of Eden to ancient Egypt into modern times. These are
techniques you can hone and develop for your own seductive
goddess.
Eyes
Our eyes, some say are the windows to our soul, to our
deeper parts of ourselves.
Eye gaze can send sensual signals
The side ways glance that Princess Diana made famous.
Remember a welcoming gaze can fill a prospective mate
with confidence to approach
Lips
Luscious pouting lips. Since the days of Cleopatra red
lip color has enhanced the lips. Lip color is said to
reflect the color of your other luscious bits.
Our modern day goddess of the lips is Angelina Jolie!
Draw attention to you lips by, biting the upper lip
with you lower one, biting on a straw, a pen ect.
More on the cleavage
Seductively playing with necklace or touching your skin
just above the cleavage, this keeps his attention, as
your hand, is where his hand would like to be?
Touch
You can open him to sensual pleasures of your goddess
touch whether it’s a long term relationship or
a new admirer.
There are many modalities of touch. Soft and light,
firmer,
Slow or faster, the back of the nails or open palm,
all are great.
Also
Touch your foot next to his
Touch your thigh to his when standing your sitting
Touch the inside of his elbow
J ust briefly or linger as long as you choose.
These are primary seductive techniques however there’s
more.
Some women are now more in touch with what I call their
seductive vibe, I call this Sensual goddess, your tantric
Goddess or inner Aphrodite.
They are taking the lead and enjoying
Their sensuality and giving themselves permission to
enjoy seduction and desire.
Goddess Allure
Each culture and era in history has had their goddesses
of feminine love and desire. The Roman Goddess Venus
and Aphrodite from ancient Greece, Shakti from the Great
sensual tradition of Tantra from India; Inanna who was
the queen of heaven and the queen of earth from ancient
Babylon.
They all embodied the great goddess of love, who was
joyously proud of her own body, seeing it as part of
the divine nature of the universe. This was not out
of vanity, but stemmed from a deep respect for her feminine
nature. She luxuriated in her beautification—and
in sensual lovemaking. …
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